Every word of this resonates with my soul. It took my second divorce to acknowledge & fully embrace this. The part about saying this to our younger selves is especially painful for me right now as I witness my daughter and her husband's marriage fall apart. Several weeks ago I wrote her and said nearly identical words-what words would have made the difference to my younger self? To stop the path of self-destruction & ruining of my marriage? Unfortunately I don’t have the answer & I couldn’t get her to see the path she was taking. And then, her husband moved out & filed for divorce. For weeks and weeks he had been begging her to work on it, but she stubbornly refused. Now she is devastated & realizes she pushed him to this. And my heart is breaking.
I am so sorry, Jennifer. I think sometimes we can't see until later that we orchestrate a lot of our own pain. Maybe some of us have to go through that to learn? I was the kind who had to learn everything myself, the hard way. Not everyone is like that though. Love to you.
Excellent. Yes. Marriage must be treated as sacred. A covenant that does penetrate beyond the physical. This has become increasingly clear to me as well, even in the secular world.
Every word of this resonates with my soul. It took my second divorce to acknowledge & fully embrace this. The part about saying this to our younger selves is especially painful for me right now as I witness my daughter and her husband's marriage fall apart. Several weeks ago I wrote her and said nearly identical words-what words would have made the difference to my younger self? To stop the path of self-destruction & ruining of my marriage? Unfortunately I don’t have the answer & I couldn’t get her to see the path she was taking. And then, her husband moved out & filed for divorce. For weeks and weeks he had been begging her to work on it, but she stubbornly refused. Now she is devastated & realizes she pushed him to this. And my heart is breaking.
I am so sorry, Jennifer. I think sometimes we can't see until later that we orchestrate a lot of our own pain. Maybe some of us have to go through that to learn? I was the kind who had to learn everything myself, the hard way. Not everyone is like that though. Love to you.
Excellent. Yes. Marriage must be treated as sacred. A covenant that does penetrate beyond the physical. This has become increasingly clear to me as well, even in the secular world.